I Answered The Phone, She Told Me You Were Gone

We’ve been together since I was born because our mom’s are best friends. You were exactly two months older than me. The first memory I have of us together is of you and me playing in my backyard. You kept calling me “Donna” because you couldn’t pronounce Shauna. I can’t believe you’re gone.

Do you remember all those Thanksgivings at the kids’ table? All us kids? We made such a mess. Remember mashed potato zits? Running around afterwards playing “hide and go seek” and tag? Apples, peaches, pumpkin pie! Who’s not ready holler aye!!! (I used to think it was apples, peach skins, pumpkin pie.)

Oh you were such a looker, the girls drooled over you. Just remember, I turned you down first. You asked me to be your girl and I said no because I was too scared that I would actually have to kiss you or sumpin.  I remember flashing my newly budding breasts at you a year later and what was your response? You looked, shrugged your shoulders and said, “My sister’s are bigger”.

You were my friend. Do you remember when you and Damian snuck out in the middle of the night and rode all the way across town to come see me? Remember setting off those fireworks and how I didn’t quite throw mine high enough and we had to duck and cover? Remember how it blew the finger off my glove? Do you remember when I used to watch you and Johnne skate for hours in the pool at that abandoned air force base? You were such an adventurous soul. Always doing something.

We had so many fun hours working at the egg ranch together. It’s because of you I used the word “Poontang” at the dinner table. I remember the forts you and the boys would build out of the egg crates. Hah, I also remember when the fort caught on fire because somebody decided to use a lighter to see inside.

Remember that time we got drunk at the church picnic from that box o’ wine? You and I laying side by side in the ice plant laughing our heads off. Our parents looking at us thinking we were such a pair of giggly heads. That is until you puked all over the stairwell at the youth center. I think that was the day you got “introduced” to Monsignor Dolan. 

                                                       

 

You were my pal. We were so goofy whenever we got together. I loved hanging out with my “boys”. Never a dull moment. Always skateboarding, surfing, snowboarding, dirt biking and getting into mischief. I thought you were so clever. You were certainly a leader. You made me laugh. You were my co-conspirator. I admired you.

We got older. Everyone started calling you Dan, but not me, you were still my Danny.  You went away to college and I stayed home for school. We each got married. I moved across the country. We only saw each other at family gatherings.  Even though we didn’t see each other as often as when we were kids, we were always able to pick up where we left off and have a good ole time when we did.

Marie, your wife, is one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever met. Still not sure how you pulled that one off. Mom says she’s in shock right now. I’m in shock right now. I can’t believe you’re gone. I’m going to miss you and my heart is broken right now.

You remember how many times you cheated death? You remember when we were in your car and we lost control and spun out? You remember how that man came out of his house and threatened to kill you because of it? Boy was he mad. Or when we side-swiped a bridge guardrail on the way home from Knott’s Berry Farm because our driver fell asleep? We thought it was so funny to yell, “CORN!” at random times the rest of the drive home to make sure he didn’t fall asleep again. You remember how you were camping and that jeep went off the road and came to a rest on it’s side just touching your tent?

I guess this time you just couldn’t cheat death.  I don’t know what that woman was doing when she lost control of her truck, but I’m glad you left this world on your dirt bike doing what you love. I’m so sorry for Marie, my Godparents and the rest of his family. What a rotten Mother’s Day for my Godmother.

I will forever miss you.   

Daniel John Krivitz

2/25/1973-5/10/2008   

[UPDATE]    Rosary/viewing scheduled for Thursday May 15th at 6:30pm.     Funeral Mass to be held, Friday May 16th at 10am both services held at Our Lady of Perpetual Help Catholic Church.                                                                                                                    

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111 Comments

  1. Words can’t express all that I’m feeling after reading your post. As I read about the things you two used to do together, it sounded so much like me and my friend Mark, it was unreal. I almost wanted to stop reading, because I had already guessed the reason for the post, and I didn’t want an non-happy ending. But I couldn’t do it.

    I am so very very sorry for your loss. (As I write this I’m reminded that the word ‘loss’ doesn’t even begin to cover the magnitude of feeling that part of your heart has been ripped out.)

    Thank you for sharing your amazing tribute to Daniel and the journey you traveled together.

  2. PJ, I am so sorry. You’ve written a beautiful and moving tribute to your friend. May God keep him, his family, and his friends close to His heart and ease your pain with beautiful memories.

  3. I’m so sorry. What you wrote about him was beautiful. While reading I kept thinking, someday this will make his family smile. It’s lovely.

  4. I’m so sorry for your loss! I’m wishing you and yours well.

  5. Sorry to hear about this tragedy. Thank God for the memories.

  6. A friend could ask for no better eulogy. I’m sorry for your loss.

  7. I wish I could hug you in person, PJ.

  8. What great memories. You wrote such a loving tribute. I can sense your heart in every word.

    I’m so sorry you lost your good friend.

  9. Pjmomma- I’m overwhelmed with sadness for you. I’m so, so sorry.

  10. Dear God.

    I’m so sorry dear. I don’t have the words to describe it, but my heart is broken for you right now, and for the family and loved ones of your friend.

    It can’t be much consolation, but what you wrote about him was very sweet, and helped us know a little bit about who he was. You honored him by doing that, and that you did it while bearing your grief is a testament to the goodness of your heart.

    May he rest in peace, and may those who loved him find comfort in these hard days.

    Dave

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  12. This is one of the most wonderful tributes I’ve ever read. You and Dan’s family with be in my thoughts and prayer today. My heart goes out to you, pajama momma. You were blessed to have such a good friend and such good memories. He was blessed to have such a good friend as well.

    Please remember that he has only left the mortal plane where geography separated you. Now Danny will be with you always. You have another angel to watch over you and there will be many times in your life when you will feel his presence. And that is a wonderful thing.

    {{{HUG}}}

  13. Oh how awful, PJ. Your heart must be broken. And I feel terrible for his wife, and mother, too. What a shock. Thoughts and prayers go out to all of you.

    My heartfelt condolences to you, dear.

  14. I know it’s painful and the news was dropped onto you like a ton of bricks.

    My condolences.

  15. Oh, man. I am sorry.

  16. Your friend Dan sounds like the kind of person who enriched the lives of everyone who knew him. I’m so sorry for your loss, PJM. Words fail us at times like these, but you just wrote a great tribute to your friend, helped all of us to see him through your eyes, if only for a moment.

  17. Sorry also, and thanks for sharing this remembrance.

  18. Sorry to hear this.

  19. Oh my God, I just saw this, I am so sorry PJM.

    God bless, that is an amazing tribute.

  20. I’m so so sorry…

  21. PJM -I’m so sorry.
    Dan is now in the loving embrace of our Lord. How wonderful that you have all of those beautiful memories of him. I pray his family finds some solace in your words.

  22. I’m sorry PJM, he sounds like he was a wonderful friend.

    I’m going to shout POONTANG this Thanksgiving in his honor.

  23. I’m sorry pajama mama. My heart aches for you and Dan’s family. God bless you all.

  24. :-(

    Your post made me cry.

    Damn you :-)

  25. Me too. This post made me cry.

    I’m so very sorry, PJM. May God encircle you and all who’re mourning in His comforting arms, and may He usher in this marvelous young man into the mansion prepared for him.

  26. I’m so sorry for your loss pjmomma. Prayers and condolences to you and his family.

  27. I am so sorry for your loss. May your friend rest in peace and may you be comforted.

  28. Wow, way too young.

    Sorry to hear about this.

  29. He lit the way for you in life; he’s lighting the way for you now.

    You will see him again. But not yet. Not yet.

  30. I looked it up and the name Daniel means “God is my judge”. From what I read, God has judged Daniel to be welcomed addition to His Eternal Family. Bless you,PJ and bless those Danny left behind.

  31. My condolences, pj. He was very lucky to have a friend like you who cared about him so much and wrote such a moving tribute.

  32. PJM –

    I can only echo the sentiments and feelings conveyed above.

    We will keep you, your family and your friends in our prayers.

  33. My condolences to you and Danny’s family.

    Now I’m going to wipe my eyes and hug my wife & kids.

    God bless.

  34. My prayers are with you and Danny’s loved ones, PJM.

  35. PJ-

    Thinking about you and praying for you in your time of loss. May the Lord be with you in this time of need, and always… and may our army of morons be a shoulder to you in your time of loss.

    God bless, and with love,

    tmi3rd

  36. He was a mightly lucky man to have such a good friend. My prayers are with you and his family. Kemp

  37. My thoughts and prayers go out to you, Daniel, his family and friends.

  38. My sweet sister PJM,
    OH how it sorrowed me to call you, even though you already knew, I just wanted to talk to you because I know how close you and Dan were. I remember him driving up next to me on the freeway and giving me the peace sign, then both of us rolling down our windows and having a windy conversation about (when we get around to it) golfing and maybe camping, that was only weeks ago, now it seem too far and long ago. Dan never missed a chance to ask how you were doing during the odd times I ran into him, he always had such a beautiful attitude on life, as do you. I am and was inspired by both you and he and watching you and Dan grow up together has helped me know how special and important a (good) friend can be. Your tribute with pictures increased my sorrows, but has helped me deal with his death, for I did not have anything, but my own memories, now I have yours to help make a fuller picture.
    Love you my sweet younger sister.
    Michael

  39. I am very sorry for your loss. I am also sorry for the rest of Danny’s friends and family.

  40. Much too young. I’m so sorry for your loss, and for the loss to all who loved him.

  41. PJ,

    I cannot express it.

    Words are inadequate.

    This hits very close to home because I’ve been there.

    My heart still hurts.

    Just remember that you are not alone.

    Others have walked the path before you, and there are those who are walking it right beside you.

    My thoughts and prayers for God’s comfort go out to Daniel’s family and friends.

    ***

    “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”
    — Dr. Seuss

  42. I’m sorry for your loss and the loss of Dan’s family and other friends. Small world – I live off Mast Blvd in Santee, and noticed the news because he was from Santee. I’ll say a prayer. Beautiful remembrance

  43. Ah, damn. I’m so sorry.

  44. Don’t know what to say, PJ. I am so very sad for your loss.
    Deepest condolences to you and your families.

  45. I am so sorry, PJ. Words cannot adequately express at moments like this. All my best to you and everyone involved.

    – Tim S

  46. I never knew Dan until you wrote this but I feel that I lost out by not knowing him before now. You’ve done right by your friend. Thank you for introducing us.

  47. I am deeply sorry for your loss. Your tribute was touching and beautiful. My prayers are with you and Danny’s family.

    God Bless.

  48. I’m truly sorry for your loss. I know it’s customary to say some happy horsehockey about how he is in a better place now, but I’ve found that hardly ever makes anyone feel better. The truth is, death sucks. Especially when it is someone so young and full of life. So cry your tears as you remember your friend, but know that you are not alone and that you have plenty of friends and well-wishers who are thinking of you.

    Once again, my deepest condolences to you and your extended family.

  49. Shauna,

    I didn’t know either you or Dan, but I’m very sorry to hear about the loss of your good friend. You’ll both be in my prayers.

    He’ll be waiting for you on the other side…

  50. So sorry for your loss Pajama Mama. “Each man’s death diminishes me….”

    There is something about those we knew when we were youngest children that transcends all later relationships.

    We are but the stuff dreams are made of…..

  51. PJM:

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Be comforted by the small moments in the weeks to come when you’ll think of Danny and smile, when some odd occurrence will remind you of him.

    I think it’s in these moments that our departed friends reach out to us.

    Be at peace. Danny surely is.

  52. PJM:

    I admire your ability to focus on the positive and write a stirring eulogy instead of curling up in the corner and being a basket case (my approach). What an awful blow to your family and his. Please let me know if there’s anything I can do.

    Take care of yourself.

  53. PJM:

    I’m sorry to read of your loss, but also lucky to have been able to read about it, the way you wrote it.

    A beautiful tribute, and I hope the good memories soon outweigh the feeling of loss.

    MP

  54. What a wonderful tribute to your friend. Praying for you and Dan’s family…

  55. Sorry for your loss.

    You’re in my prayers.

  56. Shauna,

    I’m a friend of Cori’s (Danny’s sister), and I had just tried to get some more information before calling her so I googled and found your blog. What a beautiful letter to your dear friend. That was so incredibly written and I’m sure his family will smile when they read it.

    I saw Dan growing up when I went over to Cori’s house but never really got to know him until my husband and I were looking for someone to help us design our backyard. I was talking to Cori one day and telling her of our space and she suggested that we call Dan. Dan was a landscape architect as you know but of course at the time I didn’t. Well, he came up with a fabulous design for our modest backyard that turned into a sweet little oasis for me to come home to after putting in long hours at work. Dan never saw the finished product of our backyard, well of course there’s still some work to do. But his mom and sister did and I’m sure they were very proud of his work. He had such a great easy caring way about him. We will forever be grateful for getting to know him better through the process of planning our backyard and will raise a glass to him every time we enjoy it in the company of friends/family.

    I’m sure there are many out there that knew him better than we did will feel the pain of his passing for a long time to come. I hope because of all the great memories that you do have of him that will help through the sad times. It will never be the same without him here, but at least you know you will see him again someday.

    Take care, my prayers go out to you.

    -M

  57. That was a beautiful eulogy, pjm. I am sure it will be a comfort to his family. I’m so sorry for you and them.

  58. Oh, I am so, so, sorry.

    May he, and all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace.

    Praying for you all.

  59. Loveliest tribute I ever read. Thank you for this.

  60. What a wonderful and very heartfelt tribute to your friend. My condolences on his passing.

  61. God bless the both of you.

  62. A beautiful tribute, indeed.

    You are blessed to have so many wonderful memories of your time spent together. May they give you peace during this difficult time.

    God Bless.

    JM Flynn

  63. I’m sorry for your loss. It’s great that you’re able to concentrate on the shared joy you have even as you mourn the loss.
    You were both blessed to share so much.
    God bless.

  64. So sorry PJM, this is a terrible loss. Others that you do not know are wishing you and all of the families the best.

  65. PJM — I’m so sorry to hear you lost such a great friend. There is no way I could possibly understand the ache you must be feeling now, but this was a great way to share Danny with us. Thank you for being willing to do that. You and his family will be in my prayers. I wish there was more that I could do.

  66. So sad to read, but lovely knowing how much he was loved. I lost a very close friend of 17 years Christmas day 2006. It makes the holidays suck in some ways, but we all laugh and talk about the good times and we know he’s laughing with us. You never really get over it, but you do get through it. Good luck, best wishes, and a heartful of sympathy to you.

  67. That was a great tribute. I almost feel like I knew him.

    Oops got something in my eye.

  68. “Only those who are fit to live do not fear to die. And none are fit to die who have shrunk from the joy of life and the duty of life. Both life and death are parts of the same great adventure.”
    -Theodore Roosevelt

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  70. I am so sorry for your loss, and give you my sympathies.

  71. Every person embodies the Divine Love, and the loss of one friend is like the loss of one’s reason for existence, written economically.

    But with the recognition of the Divine in one another we are reminded of the ground of our hope.

    May God bless you and draw your friend to His eternal Love and happiness.

    – a stranger who is a sister in God’s eyes – paula

  72. I am so sorry for the loss of your close friend. You two had a very special bond that death cannot tear apart. When Iose a loved one, I find comfort in the fact that I know I will see them on the other side. Daniel will be waiting when you get there.

  73. Wow, thank you so much for sharing that with us. I’m so sorry for this loss. You’re description of him was beautiful and an honor to him.

  74. Are you OK? I am so sorry…. and so sad, I know how close you were. What a beautiful post.

    You know where I am if you need to talk.
    Luv You

  75. You seem like a strong person, and I hope writing this helped you. I know reading it is helping others. So thanks for giving of yourself, even when it doesn’t seem like there is much left to surrender. It is beautifully written.

  76. Some things in this life just never make sense. This is one of them. This is a beautiful tribute to your friend. When all we can do is remember, then that is what we do and you did it in such a loving way. I know his famly will treasure the words.

  77. My deepest sympathies PJM.

    This really strikes a chord today because my cousin’s husband, a fine man, is laying in ICU in an induced coma after being hit head on by a drunk driver. Many major injuries and if our prayers are answered and he makes it, many months of therapy.

  78. When spirits need to be born they choose the parents and events they need to experience to grow and heal.
    When a spirit has done it’s thing, it goes.

    You had a wonderful experience to have a friend like this man.

    Mourning is normal and I feel for you, but he is not dead.

    We move on.

  79. I just found your blog…this was the first entry I read…as I sit her crying for you and Danny and his family, you should know that you have honored his memory in such a magnificent way…you are , indeed, a beautiful friend…

    And I have now bookmarked your Blog, you are one that should not be missed! Thank you…….

  80. I have only just come across your blog and this post moved me so much I had to leave you a comment just to say what a beautiful tribute. I am so sorry for your loss.

  81. I love you, I have been thinking about you since I to got a phone call from my sister telling of the news from you mom. You have wrote the most beautiful thing I have every read. As I have read this I could not help but remembering you both and how fun you too have been. I was not as close as you but I can not remember a time that he was not at a family function, smiling laugh, and just being Danny. It’s funny I am not sure if you know this but he sucked me in to Amway, such a smooth talker, then we both got out knowing it was a joke. I have always viewed the Krivitz as extended family always around fitting into our crazy ways as a family. His lost too has touch my heart, in many ways, for his wife, brother, sisters, mom and dad, and you. I know how much he will be missed and how much we have all loved having him around. I want you to know I am here if you need me. Love your Cousin Rebecca

  82. You have my deepest sympathizes. My prayers are there for you and his family.

  83. Absolutely heartbreaking.
    Thoughts and prayers with you and family.

  84. My sympathies go out to you and your best friend’s family….God Bless him and keep him….very beautiful memorial you have committed to the internet forever!

  85. I was away all weekend and just saw this — I’m so sorry for your and Dan’s family’s loss, PJM. He was clearly a special friend and yours was a special tribute. Though it is naturally excrutiating, remembering the joy you both shared is the very best way to grieve. Take care, hon.

  86. So, so sorry for your loss.

    What a wonderful and amazing tribute to honor your friend.

  87. Aw, shit, PJM. I’m really sorry to hear the news.

    I think you wrote a wonderful tribute – I think he’d grin ear-to-ear to hear it, and that’s when you know you done right.

    Just as you were there when I was dealing with my mom’s death, let me know what I can do.

    You all are in my prayers –

    LK

  88. That is a beautiful tribute to your friend. You just reaffirmed my faith in humanity.

    My deepest condolences to you and your family.

  89. Oh PJM. I literally have tears streaming down my face. I am so so so sorry. Death is such a hard thing to deal with, especially when it comes as a shock. It’s obvious from your beautiful tribute that you loved each other very much … I’m sending you virtual hugs — you and your family and Dan’s family are in my prayers.

  90. I am a friend of Dan’s wife Marie. You have written a very nice tribute to Dan and his family! Dan and Marie are very fortunate to have friends and family like you.

  91. HI SHAUNA, I JUST GOT THIS PASSED ON TO ME BY MY BROTHER MIKE’S WIFE MELISSA TURPIN. THIS HAS GOT TO BE ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THINGS I HAVE READ. BEING ONE OF THE MANY KIDS AT THE “KIDS TABLE” AT THANKSGIVING WITH YOU GUYS, THIS MADE ME LAUGH MY HEAD OFF AND CRY AT THE SAME TIME! DAN WILL TRULY BE MISSED BY ALL OF US WHO GREW UP OUT IN LAKESIDE AND BEING THE BRUNT OF HIS MANY PRANKS LIKE STEALING ALL OFF OUR EASTER CANDY. THATS OK WE FORGAVE HIM ALONG TIME AGO. I SEE HIM NOW IN THE LOVING EMBRACE OF OUR LORD JESUS OR AS MY DAUGHTER CHLOE SAYS ” HE IS SNUGGLING WITH JESUS.” WE LOVE AND MISS YOU DAN!! LOVE JOY (TURPIN) CISLAGHI MY PRAYERS ARE WITH HIS WIFE MARIE AND THE KRIVITZ FAMILY

  92. Yes Shauna ,
    I remember the table too.
    As I sit here thinking of all the great memories I ‘ve shared with Dan I feel so blessed to have been his friend and I am so glad you have written this special tribute. It brings back so many memories of my childhood with all of our families together during the holidays. He was truly a unique person full of life and always searching for the maximum good time adventure. I will miss him greatly like so many others he has encountered in his life. Dan had so many friends and he was truly a real friend to me. I cannot believe he left this place and all of us so early. But it obviously was his time and now all I can do is share all of the crazy and fun experiences Dan had brought to my life.
    Dan My brother, May you rest in peace and thank you for all of the great times.
    You will never be forgotten!
    I will see you on the other side.

    All of my prayers for strength and hope to Marie and the Krivitz Family.

    peace,
    Joe Turpin and Wife Melissa

  93. Danny is my cousin….I have always called him Danny and never Dan. I live in Wisconsin, got the phone call Sunday morning while I was on a mother/daughter trip in Colorado. I am still in shock and disbelief!!! I cannot imagine what my Uncle Rich and Aunt Shirley are going through!!! I have yet to talk to them. I would like to attend the funeral, but it is unlikely. I lost another cousin named Danny (from the other side of my family) due to an avalanche. He was 30 years old. I was unable to attend his funeral because of it being out of state. I hate not being able to have a final good-bye. Although I wasn’t close to Danny because of him being so far away, I have childhood memories of the times we did see each other. I will miss my cousin and am very sad that he has died. I am sorry to Marie, my Uncle Rich, Aunt Shirley, Cori, Christie, Nick, and everyone in my family and everyone who loved him and knew what a great person he was!!!!

  94. Shauna,

    You are a strong woman with a huge heart, I think this tribute was a couragous and hard, yet comforting way for you to express your feelings. I’m so very sorry you lost your friend, I can not tell you how much sorrow I feel for you and his family right now. I’m here when you need me

  95. PJM,
    I read this a few days ago and didn’t know what to say.

    I still do not.

    Thank you,
    God Bless your friend, and his family.
    They and you are in my thoughts and prayers.

    V

  96. I use to work with Marie and was so taken away by the news. Marie is a wonderful person
    and my thoughts and prayers are with her and the whole Krivitz family. I did not know Dan Krivitz or his family personally, just knew of the family name through El Capitan. This memorial tribute was very sweet. My heart goes out to Marie and all of his family and friends. Peace!

  97. I’m very touched by this tribute to your friend, and I’m sure he’s somewhere up there smiling down on you. I wish him good luck in the next life.

  98. Just wanted to tell you how sorry I am. Everyone pretty much as already said what I feel.

    The yelling “CORN” cracked me up and reminded me of something I would of done.

    “I remember flashing my newly budding breasts at you a year later and what was your response? You looked, shrugged your shoulders and said, “My sister’s are bigger”.

    Is Soho’s his sister? (sorry I couldn’t resist)

  99. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  100. I just stumbled across you blog. My sympathies. What a nice tribute, though.

  101. Dan was a great guy. He will surely be missed. It was good to hang out with you, Damian and Charlie at 5.5. I think Dan would be happy we were all able to vent out there!

  102. YAY! badpenguin! How are you? I’ve looked for you on Ace’s.
    It was great hanging out with you guys. I loved meeting your wife as well, she’s awesome!

    It was a good night. It made handling the next day at the funeral a bit easier.

  103. Shauna…you wordsmithing little Devil! This is your God-Father, Danny’s Dad. I finally got around to reading them all and I give you big Kudo’s for a job well done…a great tribute to Danny and many heart-felt responses from all your Blog-buddies.

    I wish we had more time at the funeral to re-connect but we were all basket-cases…to be expected. I miss Danny so much, but the heart is now healing, very, very slowly, one corpuscle at a time. I love you sweetie.

  104. I became good friends with Dan during our days at Cal Poly.
    We were to be fishing together at Eagle Lake in two weeks.
    I was missing him a lot today.
    I googled his name and your blog came up.
    It made me cry.
    I know in my heart he’s in a better place but it still hurts like hell.

  105. . I miss Danny so much, but the heart is now healing, very, very slowly, one corpuscle at a time. I love you sweetie.

    Hi Mr. K! I love you too. I’m sorry I haven’t responded. I’ve been unable to look at this post because it breaks my heart when I do.

    One of Dan’s friends commented today and I was forced to look to look at this post again and face reality.

    It’s good I did I suppose because it gets me to remember all the happy memories of days long ago.

    I really, really love you and Shirley, you’re my second family and I hope you know that.

    Thank you for your nice comment Johnston.

  106. Im really sorry about Dan. You don’t know me. Dan and I were good friends years and years ago. It would mean a lot for me to be able to say good bye to him. I don’t know any other way.

    This is for Dan,
    I just found out I lost a friend this weekend. I lost touch with him years ago, but he is someone who I could never forget. I always thought a time would come when I could tell him that I think he is a great guy and I whish that we could have stayed friends. This should serve as an example that everyone should express thier feelings to the people you care about now. Dont wait because you may never get that chance.
    Dear Dan:
    Remember the river, my peace rocks and the made up prom. I thought you broke my heart, but that was never a good enough reason for me to let our friendship go away. We all moved on. I fell in love, got married, had children. You fell in love, got married, but now your gone. I will pray for your family and friends. I could only imagine the pain it must be to loose my husband, my son, my brother, and my friend. I know you will look after them and take care of them from heaven.

    Good Bye To My Friend

    Oh, P.S. A friend told my long ago that for every person who dies, someone else is born. I always find a new born baby everytime I loose someone I care about. You remember Camille! She gave birth to a baby boy a couple of weeks ago! I hope he shines like you did!!

  107. So, I just found this blog spot, and I am listening to eek a mouse, and I remembered my friend and wanted to weigh in. I knew Dan since we were so small. It was great to grow up in an area where there were so many characters. I remember you and damn Onion were best of friends. I was lucky to a part of your life when the most interesting of my years were playing out. I remember when I went to the confirmation confeference with your sister. My cousin had such the hots for your sisiter as did most of us. Well thank goodness that didn’t pan out. I never understood how you did it. It always seemed that you were so much more effective in experiencing life and the way to capture it than any of us. I remember you driving me down old San Vicinte road playing the witch song from the Door’s Movie at full blast in your car. It fit perfectly. When I had my bachelor party, you and Marty brought masks to scare everyone, but all I could do was laugh. That was one of my all time highs. There are so many good stories from the egg ranch. I just wish I had some of the pictures you and Johnny Rasta took. Then you showed at Damians wedding in Texas, and I have the pictures of all of us on my Father in laws boat. It was good to connect again. I heard the tales of yours and Marty’s trip together and wished I was there. Well, when I heard you died from being hit by a car on your motorcycle, I wished I could just say you were drunk, and that I could just chalk it up to living life in the fast lane. As it turns out you died in a way that could not be planned for. This really hit me hard. I began to panic every time I was standing on the side of the road on a wreck, in fact even driving freaked me out for about a month. Life comes and goes too fast. Biddy bong bong gitty geken. So long and thanks for all the good times. So many good times were had that it would take days to write them all down. You live in my heart Mr. Danesbian. Petroskovitch

  108. So.. also, in response to the person who wrote before me, well maybe that’s true. When I heard about Dan’s death, my wife was in the early stages labor. on May 14th, my som Alexander Thomas Israel was born. Hopefully he got even half your enthusiasm for life Dan. Well take it easy from the Corn Egg ranch posse. CERP rules. Petroskovitch

  109. marie, I’m sorry for what you went through, and all the loss you endured. You will recover from this tragedy. You will find love again and prosper–in ways you may not be aware of. Please consider me a friend and a business associate. I have you as a valued customer. I am sincerely your El Convidado,

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